Pre-marital counselling is probably the last thing in your order of priorities as you plan for your big day. But before I explain why I think it should be the number one priority, let me congratulate you on finding the person you want to commit to on your life journey.
This is an exciting time for you, but it’s also a very stressful time. You can quickly move from feeling united in love to feeling disconnected with arguments and tension increasing. Don’t worry, this is perfectly normal and given the pressures of planning the wedding and associated major life changes, something you can expect to happen.
Give yourself and your marriage the gift of a secure foundation
The main thing to keep in mind is that your relationship, your ‘we’, is the important element in all of this and it’s far more important that the details of the wedding. The greatest gift you can give yourself when starting out together is the gift of a strong and secure base. I’ve listed the many benefits to pre-marital counselling in the box on the right, and as you can see, this work will enhance the chances of you staying married by over 30%. That is a remarkable statistic and one to take to heart.
Make pre-marital counselling your first priority
So while pre-marital counselling is probably the last thing you want to invest in or make time for, please consider the major life-changing significance of getting married, and to ask yourself if can you really afford not to make pre-marital counselling your first priority? There is little point in ensuring that the wedding event goes off perfectly and you enjoy a magical honeymoon if the foundation is not stable…If the marriage is not built on a secure base, nothing else will matter.
If you are still reading this then I am assuming that you really value the marriage commitment you are making and that you want to ensure that it is a lifelong success. Let’s work together and give your marriage an exceptional head-start with a brief and highly effective package of pre-marital counselling!
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