Couple Therapy - Infidelity Survival - Discernment Counselling
Couple therapy to break the deadlock, rescue your relationship and restore intimacy and desire.
Intensive recovery programme to help survive the pain of infidelity.
Discernment Counselling is an effective alternative to couple therapy when one partner has left or is unsure whether to stay or go. .
Much of the joy and pain in life is experienced in our relationships. Couple therapy could be the greatest investment for your own health and wellbeing and for your partner and family. However, if you don’t choose wisely, couple therapy can do more harm than good when the therapist doesn’t have the specialist knowledge and experience to help couples in distress. It is essential that you find a therapist you can connect with and who has the training and skills required to work with more than one person in the room. After many years of experience and specialised training working only with couples, I can help you to break the deadlock, discover the invisible connectors and reestablish a profound sense of intimacy and desire.
No matter how bad things may seem, your relationship can recover from a marital affair or relationship infidelity. I’ve witnessed this many times and the recovery often results in a stronger and more meaningful bond than the one that existed before the betrayal.
I know you are facing one of the most difficult challenges of your life. Accepting the cracks and brokenness of your relationship and facing the disappointment of betrayal is a painful process.
My intensive approach will help you to gain insight into what has happened and empower you with the strength to move forward.
Some couples seeking therapy have different agendas. If one of you is ‘leaning in’, and trying to save the marriage, and the other is ‘leaning out’, and considering ending the marriage, then you have mixed agendas. In these situations, couples counselling is not the right approach to take and will generally only make things much worse.
In response to the poor outcomes achieved from couples counselling when couples have different agendas, I now offer a radical new approach called “Discernment Counselling”. The goal of Discernment Counselling is not to solve the marital problems but to see if they are solvable and to gain clarity and confidence about the choices you are faced with. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage. Discernment Counselling is specifically tailored to the needs of couples where one of you simply cannot decide to stay or to go.